These days, it is very easy for people to propose marriage to anyone they come across or are attracted to.

But hard to become good friends before marriage.

It is so true when ladies reply to a man who shows an interest in them.  That they should first become friends.

Many men are not able to stand that test so they run.

Probably, the lady like you, be attracted to you, might know you on the surface, reside in the same area. And attended the same schools, know of your family, be in the same church.

But that is not enough to accept your marriage proposal. She wants to be safe and secure in the relationship. Wants to be comfortable around you.

She wants to know more about you so there can be trust in you. Telling you that let us be friends first” is a great place to get to know you. If you are serious about marriage, then as a man, you will accept her offer.

Anybody who gets angry and runs away from you. Because you want the marital journey to start as a friendship, is not a candidate for marriage. They don’t understand marriage and should be ignored.

No lady should get upset or uncomfortable. Because a man interested in her left after asking them to start the relationship as friends.

The foundation of marriage is friendship, if you can’t be friends, you cannot be a couple, it’s as simple as that. Again, you get to know people’s true intentions. And motives when both become good friends.

Both get to know the beautiful side and the ugliest when becoming true friends.

Don’t expect someone to put up or live with your ugliest side. If you won’t give them the privilege to know you as a friend before agreeing to be with you.

They might end up marrying a total stranger. You, therefore, have to give one opportunity to spend the rest of your life with them to get to know you before they agree on marrying you.

Friendship before marriage is a non-negotiable if you truly want a successful marriage.

In today’s marriages, we have couples who cannot spend an hour together talking about themselves.

Also, some couples understand their devices better than their partners. And communicate better with these devices than their partners.

As a result, they try to control their partner instead of loving and understanding them.

Being friends with people on social media, reading their feeds and status doesn’t make true friends. And you should not propose marriage based on such experience.

Facebook is one place people pretend to be friends. Friendship goes beyond clicking the friendship request button.

Sometimes, what you see in people may not lead to marriage, it could just be friends.

Once you take time to be friends, you will get the picture clearer, whether it’s love or not. Acquittance or marriage. If it’s a company or a relationship.

If you take time to build a friendship before a marriage proposal, you will understand how hard it is to become good friends. And you won’t leave such friendship after marriage. Because it is going to be one of the most difficult things to do.

Especially when you think of how far you have come, the memories that you cannot forget.

In conclusion, “Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family” – Proverbs 18:24 (MSG).